Finding the perfect gift for someone is a collectively-felt struggle. Year after year, we’re plagued with the “what ifs” of gift-giving. “What if they don’t like it?”, “what if I have to deal with the hassle of a return?”, “what if I put all of this thoughtful time and energy into something that they didn’t even want in the first place?”.

We get it, gift-giving can be stressful. But let’s spin these what-ifs. What if the thoughtful gift you give them is exactly what they need? What if they’re impressed that you were able to find a meaningful present that spoke to them so deeply? What if all they felt when they unwrapped that gift was loved?

What if the answer to all of these questions wasn’t a mystery?

If you’re reading this confused about whether that’s even possible, we’ll happily be the first to tell you that it is. The way to be sure your recipient will truly love and cherish your gift is to first understand how they best show and receive love.

Love languages have been talked about for years, but recently they’ve made their way into buzzy conversations. And not just the traditional ones, but different forms of showing your appreciation and admiration for someone.

A love language might be getting your partner’s coffee order perfect on the first try. Or for your sibling, it could be when you spontaneously call them. It may even be treating yourself to a bubble bath after a long and stressful week. The point is, love looks and feels different for everyone.

However, the original five love languages — physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and (ironically) receiving gifts—in some capacity, are what most people understand as the forms of expressing and reacting-to love. Not to mention, they are a great guide for choosing the right gift giving idea for someone this holiday season. 

Consider this the cheat sheet for guaranteeing you an A+ in gifting this holiday. We’re here to share our gift ideas so you can give the best love language gifts.

Best Gifts for the Love Language of Physical Touch

maude - vibe

Whether it’s being enjoyed solo or with a partner, this handheld, flutter-tip personal vibrator is ideal for getting back in touch on a deep level—both in the bedroom and beyond.

PAUME - Probiotic Hand Balm + 100% Cotton Overnight Hydration Gloves

You can’t talk about touch as a love language without a gift for the hands and these cotton gloves are great for sealing in the hydrating benefits of the probiotic-rich, fast-absorbing hand balm for smooth palms ready for all forms of touch.

Mount Lai - The Stainless Steel Gua Sha Tool  

Love is not just about how it feels in the moment but also the effects it leaves behind and this facial sculpting tool is a great gift idea for leaving skin feeling cool and calm long after touch.

Best Gifts for the Love Language of Quality Time 

Province Apothecary - Lovers Kit

It’s no secret that intimacy is the ultimate signal for undisturbed time spent with yourself or a loved one. Not only does this oil duo show skin some much-needed love, but it’s also the precursor for a well-spent, quality night in.  

100% Pure - Green Tea Water Bomb Mask

The easiest way to carve out some quality time is a face mask that requires time to chill and this refreshing and rejuvenating one will no doubt be enjoyed as your recipient catches up on the newest episodes of the show they’re bingeing. 

Nécessaire - The Body Exfoliator in Sandalwood

The intoxicating aroma of this body exfoliator should really be on anyone’s holiday list, but nothing says quality time quite like a long, indulgent shower where you scrub every nook and cranny on your body. 

Best Gifts for the Love Language of Words of Affirmation

Clean Rebellion - I am Gorgeous

Get clean as you enjoy a moment of affirmation with his appropriately titled, 100% Castille-based soap that gives you a super sudsy experience for your hair or body and a realignment with your mind. 

bluboho - Guardian Ear Cuff in 14K Yellow Gold

What better gift for someone who loves words of encouragement than a piece of jewelry that says it all? As this cuff clings to their ear, it acts as a reminder of the inner strength and power they have to be their own guardian.

Kjaer Weis - Lipstick in Adore

Affirmations should not only come from one another but also from within. Gift this true red, buttery lipstick as a form of wearable confidence for your recipient to vocalize their thoughts and feelings.

Best Gifts for the Love Language of Acts of Service

Nette - Queen

For those who enjoy having something done for them, this moody, coconut-wax candle makes the perfect gift along with a day devoted to them where they can enjoy some peace and quiet—which may be the ultimate form of service.

Olverum - Bath Oil

A tried and true gift for the ones who lavish in acts of service is treating them to a spa night-in. Light a candle (perhaps our recco above?), play some calming music and add a few drops of this skin-nourishing bath oil to set a decadent space.

Tease - Self Care Elixir

To top off their calming night in, brew them a cup of this caffeine-free, adaptogenic tea that feels and tastes like meditation in a cup. Better yet, keep it stashed somewhere they won’t find to ensure you can treat them to a comforting drink when they need it most.

Best Gifts for the Love Language of Receiving Gifts

Gift Sets

These sets bring something for everyone on your list—regardless of their love language, but the ones who really love receiving will be delighted to have a few gifts wrapped in one.

Gifts Under $50

Rather than saving up your presents for a certain day or week, why not sprinkle in the magic throughout the season with a few little somethings to really show your love?

Detox Box

These curated monthly boxes are the gift that keeps on giving this season—and if there’s anyone who will be in favor of that, it’s those who love to receive.

Gift Cards

Special occasions can be stressful, and sometimes gift ideas are best left to the recipient. Speak your partner's love language with the can't-go-wrong best gift: a gift card. This one is sure to speak to all five love languages. Express love by letting them select the actual gift, bonus points if you take them out on a shopping date!